Misery loves company, but going one-to-one (i.e., complaining about your thighs to make him feel better about a soft belly)
does more damage than good. “Don’t talk disparagingly about your
own body," says O'Reilly. "Body-shaming is contagious. Surrounding
yourself with people who are body positive can change the way you feel
about your own appearance."
Give (Honest) Compliments
Yup, he craves them as much as you do. Let him know what you find
attractive about his body, and be specific. “Say, ‘I love the strength
of your arms,’ or, ‘I love the way your body feels wrapped around
mine,’” says O’Reilly. Then show some love for his other attributes—how
he makes you laugh, his killer style, etc. “If you boost his overall
self-esteem, a boost in positive body image may follow.”
Sweat in Tandem
You know healthy decisions will help him feel better, but instead of nudging (‘I thought you were going to the gym?’), make a date to do something active together. “Research shows that exercise changes the way we feel about our bodies, even if our bodies don’t psychically change as a result of exercise,” says O’Reilly. Plus, “Couples who work out together are more likely to stick to the program.”
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